Tough question, huh?? If you’re being honest, probably a little bit of both, right? I’m sure you haven’t done anything as egregious as our friends here, but, really, have you been nice?? The Christmas season is such an awesome time of year for many different reasons, but it can be equally stressful as well!
Let’s start with, of course, with the grandest tradition of all, the obligatory gift giving. Do you think that causes any stress?? For the moment, let’s even forget about that most people’s Christmas purchases are on their credit cards for at least 5 months, but just focus on the act of buying presents in general. Do we ever know what to buy?? OK, if you have kids it’s easy, they are shameless and will tell you everything that they want without hesitation. But everybody else? Tell me if this sounds familiar? You stress about the topic for the entire month of December until you go out and buy a gift card on December 23rd!
Now, we have to get a tree! It can’t be any tree, it has to be the perfect tree! And, no tree is perfect without the wonderful decorations and Christmas ornaments that you’ve accumulated throughout the years. Plus, we can’t be the only house on the block that doesn’t have a plastic reindeer in our front yard, and enough lights to bring in a 747, can we?? No stress there, right???
OK, but in the final week, everything is under control, right?? I mean, most of the presents are bought and wrapped, and the decorations have been lighting up the sky for weeks. So, time to relax and rejoice, right?? Well, not really, because there are 20 people coming over the house next week and you have to feed them all! Enough already, when does January start???
OK, take a deep breath and breathe! The purpose of this article wasn’t to be negative. I wanted to talk about an experience I had this morning and this was my long and drawn out way to get to my point. This morning, on my way to work, I pulled in front of someone in traffic. I wasn’t being careless, I had a terrible sightline because of other cars on the road, but unfortunately, the gentleman was right and I was wrong. It was one of those moments that we’ve all had where I knew I was wrong and I gestured to the man accordingly when he pulled up along side of me. Well, let’s just say that my acknowledgment of guilt didn’t satisfy him evidently because there it was, that single digit displayed at me that is so synonymous with road rage! None of this story is earth shattering, we’ve all been in this situation before. The thing, however, that was different today, and really blew me away was my reaction! I don’t know where it came from, but I just smiled and waved back at my new friend, and I mean a real wave, not a response to his wave! 🙂 In the past, I would’ve gotten upset and threw my finger right back at him, but for some reason, today I didn’t. Now, unfortunately, I would be lying if I didn’t tell you that I greatly enjoyed the fact that my smile infuriated him even more, so there are still some demons I have to work on…..lol. However, my reaction was instinct, and that is what pleased me the most.
We are being taught in this class to abstain from negative thoughts at all times. They just take energy away from you that could and should be used for positive results. This has been very difficult at times for me because it is so hard to control your thoughts at all times. Today was a result that I’m making great progress and that is what I wanted to share.
Lastly, yes, Christmas does stress each of us out at some point in one way or another. But, it’s a great time of year as well. It is a time of year that most people are more concerned with giving than receiving. We feel the need to share with others at this time of the year more than any other. We also feel gratitude for all of the good in our life! So, when stress hits this holiday season, try and remember the important things instead of the commercialization of the season. Odds are, you will feel very grateful for all that you have!
And take a lesson from this little guy………be nice!